Some Law of Attraction - An Observation

I write this without prejudice nor condemnation. I write from a general observation. I may be right, or I may be wrong. Therefore, if you are reading this, please read with an open heart, and a clear mind. This sharing is intended as a valuable lesson to all of us, including moi!

When one lives in a secured area, with gated and guarded 24 hour security, its easy to forget that even that do not ensure that you or your family will be saved from any harm. It could be a false sense of security feeling, as one also has to acknowledge that there are other stronger forces, be it from fellow human, or even greater intervention, our God Allah almighty. HE will determine whether to allow or dissallow any untoward incident to happen. Thus, we must always pray and wish for him for our safety and blessings...

A house was recently robbed at 4 am in the morning. The couple and their maid in the house was tied and the house ransacked. The robbers gets away with valueables, which at this point, I do not have any amount to report. Suffice to say that they managed to locate the jewelleries and escaped scoot free with the loot. And this house is located is a 24 hour guarded and gated security area.

I am feeling apprehensive over this matter. I am very sympathaetic to this couple, and I wish that neither my family nor any other family have to go throught this scarry incident. However, as someone who has been exposed on some little knowledge about the Law of Attraction, I would like to review this case. And I must insist that I do this without any prejudice to anyone, especially this victim couple.

This couple is known by the neighbourhood, to be newly married, less than a year. A second marriage for the husband. Wife, I don't know. But what saddened the community is, the way the first and ex-wife was treated before they end their happy marriage of 20 odd years.

The husband divorced the wife with 'talak 3' after a heated argument and sent her out of the house that very night with her clothes thrown out the door and a garbage bag to put the clothes in...not even a suitcase that they have lots of which are branded and expensive. Then he ordered the son to give her her wallet with whatever amount she had in there so she can get a cab to anywhere she wanted to go. She wasn't allowed to go through her neighbour's house, but was ordered to go the other way, where there are no other houses as theirs was a corner lot. And he let her go just like that...!

In fact, before the argument started, earlier that day he asked her to transfer her all ASB money into his bank account in the pretext of using it for a certain reason. After years of her taking care of his well being, growing up his children, preparing fresh chapatti almost everyday for more than 20 years!

Three weeks later, a new wife moved in to that very house. An affair secretly woven? Otherwise how do you explain a sudden marriage like that? And to think one of the reason the ex-wife was accussed of having an affair with a pakistani carpet salesman that she did business with???

A few months later, he wanted her her back. The ex-wife refused as they got divorced by talak 3, no way can they ger married again without a series of awkward arrangements. He claimed that he made a mistake and didn't understand the talak 3 concept. He even asked her to lie in court so they can be married again. The ex-wife refused and he got mad. She's unperturbed as she is more afraid of God than him or the court.

By advise of good friends, she started to look into her rights as his wife for 'harta sepencarian'. Since she was thrown out of the house litteraly without any means, now she is seeking legal actions to claim what is rightly hers. And the ex-husband, seeing that, tried to offer her with a compensation of Rm 270k to solve the matter and keep her mouth shut. Luckily this lady is not stupid. They have, in their 20 odd years together, accumulated assets of about RM 2-3 million. Why should she settle for less than 10% of the deal when she actually entitled to at least half of the amount.

That was 2 months ago. I haven't heard anything since then, until the day of the robbery.

In conclusion, while my heart goes to the ex-wife, I am not passing jugdements on this couple, except for some personal opinion which I will keep to myself at this juncture.

My point is, the robbery happended at a 24-hour guarded and gated housing area, which supposedly be safe and secured, but by will of God, it still happened, and to this very couple. There were probably, I said, 'probably' (and i may be wrong) a lot of negative vibes hanging around which attracted and invited some other negatives vibes in. And the stollen jewelry, were probably belonged to the ex-wife.... or not!

Other possibly negative input, the house was put on sale recently and is probably sold by now. And he admittedly and purposely did not pay the instalments since last year for this intended reason.

Some may ask, should he sue the security company? Well, for the record, he has not been paying the security fee for the last 3 months!

Battle of the Greens ..... and Life

It's going to be a cool day, with a rainy monday morning today. With this kind of weather, I don't even need to switch on the fan. Just let in the fresh air from the open doors and windows. I am actually taking a rest after a hectic weekend and especially yesterday where I spent the whole day visiting relatives at two different hospitals down south and here in PJ.

Early in the morning we made our way down the NSE about 2 hours plus drive. My aunty who is already quite elderly was admitted as she could not get up and refuse any food. Thus they had her on drip, and latest news I heard this morning is that she has cancer in her lungs and critically on 50/50 for recovery. At her age, the specialist said that it is spreading fast to her other part of the body.

I remembered this lady, all her life, if I look back, is sad. But somehow she managed to stay cheerful on most occassion and worked very hard to support her life and her only son. She was seperated from her husband long before when he went back to Sumatera, and has been on her own for a long time before one day, about 20 years back, she was match-maked with an old divorcee. However, she had been so used to being single, that she couldn't cope with married life and they got a divorce after one year. From then on she went on her usual life and various ways to find an income. She stayed with my parents until both of them passed away, and she continues living in our home till now. Her son passed away a few years back.

She has been part of our family eversince I can remember and has been very helpful in many ways that she can. I am so indebted to her for her continuos and tireless service to our family when she was an able person. The only thing I can do for her now is to make sure that she has a comfortable life and provide her with the medical attention she needed now. Dare I hope for her cure? Only Allah knows.

On the way back, we stopped by at a nursery to check some plants for my garden. I was flipping through a magazine I bought a few weeks back on the way, and got a few ideas on how I could further enhance my garden. I also noticed that my cyber friend, CakapAje's brother was featured in that magazine. Haha....small world. Back to the nursery, we figured it must be cheaper there, and since our car is empty, we can buy some plants to bring back. And true enough, the price is easily 50% less than Sungai Buluh. I bought 2 big helliconias with big wide leaves, 4 kannas, a few bag of soil and a herbal plant said to be good for diabetics and high blood.

The new batch of plants waiting to be 'grounded'.

And this morning, surveying my greens, as usual I will be on my rounds looking for weeds amongst my grass. It is my daily routine to pull out these weeds especially on the older (recycled) grass at the back. My front yard, with the new set of grass doesn't have much weeds growing. So every morning, or late evenings, I will pull out a handful or two of these weeds. I figured it would be sometime before all the weeds are gone. If they are too small to be pulled out, I'll let them grow until I can easily pull it next time. Hahaha...

The recycled grass.

This weed looks healthy and beautiful when 'young' but once it grows big, it will dominate the ground around it with big spiral leaves.

I'm not a good cameraman, but if you can see there are actually 3 different weeds in this picture.

And apparently, there are areas that is forgotten. My front compound. Hee hee....

Ignorant Tenants

It was ironic that I had to deal with some ignorant tenants over a Tenancy Agreement last night. I had to deal with bad attitude, lack of understanding on the subject matter, and even inferiority complex, maybe and ingratefulness. But I think mainly bad attitude.

They are a bunch of one brother and 2 sisters, which we had a soft spot on when they first wanted to move in even before we were ready to rent out. We let them rent our unit with a 2 weeks rental waived, with the condition for them to put up the curtain railing for the place, in view that we do not have much time to arrange for that. Earlier on we had arranged for the basic lightings and grill to be fixed, but haven't install the curtain railings yet as we didn't expect to rent it out too soon.

But when its time to move out, they took off the curtain railings with them, as if it was their property. That's the problem when the tenancy agreement is not drafted out properly.

They have not been a great paymaster either. Every now and then, they need to be reminded, and at one time even short-paid the amount without even informing us. If we didn't check, they might just get away with it. In the end they asked us to deduct from their deposit. Got road ka?

Two months prior to the end of the tenancy contract, we asked whether they are leaving or continuing? They wanted to stay until November'08. So no new tenancy agreemant is drafted since its only a few months extension and we thought we could trust them. Suddenly last week they informed us that they are leaving end of month, ie end July. I had just turned down a potential tenant for August two weeks earlier!!

Then upon checking at utility charges. Our records from the maintenance company shows that they've been late in payments and interests charged, and the last few months since January'08 bills had not been settled altogether. So I smsed them to settled those bills, and they replied its been settled. Really? Do they have the receipts? No? How come? They will check with the management office, but no update for us. Guess what my thoughts are?

Electricity bill is another issue. When I checked the mailbox, and there it was...'Notis Pemotongan Bekalan Elektrik'. Need I say more? And they have the cheek to ask when can they get their deposit back, or rather, how soon?

That's not all. Upon thorough inspection after they moved out, we found out the the second room door was broken. The lock was spoilt, the door and door frame broken. And they didn't even inform us when we came to collect the keys the night earlier. I confronted them about it and the deposit, and of course they were not too happy. They excused themselves saying it was a small thing, and had to do it because they lost the key. Hello!! If the key was lost, what was it that you returned to us in the bunch? They could always call the maintenance or us if they need the keys! Whatever it is, the door is damaged and that is not acceptable to me.

We mentioned about the curtain railings and the two weeks waived rental, and they had the nerve to say it was not in the agreement. Can you believe that? We gave them out of goodwill and hey, how much is the curtain railing costs, anyway? Very little compared to the half month rent! Now, its just so inconvenient for us to arrange someone to measure and install a new one. However, they decided to return it back just so that we will not deduct the deposit. And on top of that they didn't return one tiny mailbox key. But out of principle, and safety of future tenants, I requested that it be returned. They almost conveniently forget to hand out the car park acces card.

At this turn of event, lucky for us, inspite of the short notice given, we managed to get a new tenant as of yesterday. All the necessary rental and utility deposits, one month advance settled and the keys were handed out yesterday afternoon. So I chased the old tenants for the mailbox key and the railings they wanted to return. Made appointment for them to sent direct to the apartment. Seems to have settled, but no.... The second sister suddenly said since I have not paid them any deposit back, they want to hold the mailbox key and the railings. I don't know whether to laugh or scream. St#*@id id*@%t..! What's a mailbox key worth, and the railings...hah! I need to replace the door and door frame!

After some 'mind exchanging' last night at approximately 10 pm, they are to fix the door by temselves asap. By when? They claimed by today 7pm. Until now, they still haven't got an appointment for the contarctor to fix the door. I said they can fix it anytime today, just let me know and I'll bring the keys over, of course after informing the new tenants. In fact we are also arranging for someone to install the air conditioner and water heater this afternoon. The sooner its fixed, the sooner they will get back their deposits, minus the short rental payment and unpaid utility bills.

My question is, where's the carpenter they so arrogantly claimed can do the job fast? By 7.00 pm tonight?

I'm still waiting....!

Dilemma

Once in a year or two, I am faced with a dilemma. Its like a pattern. As much as I hate to acknowledge it, I hate dilemmas. It make me feel uneasy, incomplete and maybe to a certain extent, insecure. Whoa... I am being towards negative, here, but reality in life strucks. You can't tell them to go away. They are also, somewhat an effect of your own doing. Nevertheless, I believe in letting it out, I mean, honest feelings, to find yourself, be it negative or positive. And that will actually helps to see things objectively, and maybe even find a solution for it.

Today I am hit by one. A dilemma. .. . from a situation which that I've started several years ago. I got involved in a 'financial career path' which I wasn't sure if I really wanted to venture into. Somehow after a few trainings, I feel that it was doable and along the way, I got excited at the prospect. It seemed so easy, yes of course, when you are convinced that its something you wanted to do. Quite a lucrative venture, and with a 'great and friendly' team, what could go wrong?

I did quite a number of prospecting for new trainees. They saw the potentials. And we learned and worked together. Things seems to be going so well. We even had fun....at least for me. I even got promoted to one level higher. Somehow priorities change. While it was a fairly good career path, I do have other responsibilities and obligations. In fact, before my friend called me regarding this venture, I had just relinquished all other prior activities. Which was why I wasn't too sure if I should get involved in anything else at all. Somehow I got 'convinced' by the team. I was willing to try it out, unaware of the culture sets within the organisation.

The 'culture' I was referring to surfaced soon after my friend suddenly decided to be involved in a business. She decided not to concerntrate in just this venture, and 'declare' it to all. That was the biggest mistake ever. Soon, she was asked to relinquish her whole team. And most of us, the newbies, were confused. But we stayed on. We still question, though, what happened to TLC they so preaches? What happened to Big Heart?

After about a year, when I feel its time for me to proritize other things for my family, history was about to repeat itself. However, learning lessons from my friend, I stood firm, and carry on with my decision without letting off any of my team. Hey....there are such things as 'agreement', 'consent' and 'signature'.

A couple of years down the road, I remained an inactive agent with a very active double team. They remained strong and growing. Slow and steady. This somehow creates another situation where some interested party were not too happy with my situation. Not directly, but attempts were made that these people be transfered away from me to their direct team.

I have to make a decision. One, just let my inactivity be, que sera, sera... or plan something. It has to be in line with my priorities. The question is, am I willing to make that change?

A Special Long Drive

It was a nice long drive yesterday. I went with a good friend. We hardly meet nowadays, but we do keep in touch. And she invited me to her new home in the neighbouring state. Its not too far from Klang valley, about 30 minutes from Subang Jaya. I would just call it suburbs.

It was beautiful, not only the houses, yes there are two of them, next to each other. One of the houses are not ready yet, but the other one is ready for occupation by this weekend. The scenery was breath-taking. Hilly and green. It was so peaceful and calm, and so serene. Further down, there's a lake where one can do fishing.


The houses are colonial style, practically nostalgic. Kind of reminds me of the old government quarters, with a new modern twist, of course.

It comes with their own private driveway, about 0.3km run, since these are the only 2 houses 'occupying' the road. Amazing!

But the best thing of all, is the orchard surrounding it, especially the durians! My favourite!! There are big trees and small trees. Some of them, even I can reach. Its been a while since I last went to a dusun and boy, was I really excited if you could live in one.

I am so happy and proud of her. I knew her for quite some time, and basically knows that she's gone through thick and thin.

And guess what? This is one of her dreams fulfilled! She applies 'The Secret' principles and The Law of Atrraction. And I need to dream bigger....!

To my dear friend, a big Congratulations!

I am So Grateful!

I am so grateful for my life
For a meaningful marriage
For a beloved husband
For my beautiful children
For a cheerful home
For the great friends that I have
For a happy life
etc
etc
etc

Avoid Negatives...

Over the years, I have learned that certain things should be left untouched...

Especially anything that might have a potentially negative impact. Whether it will happen or not is another story.

That's why I had to hurt an old friend who has a history of crushes on me since teenage years by refusing to meet up over coffee. As much as I think it could be harmless, I also do not want to risk hurting anybody else in my life now that could be hurt by this innocent meeting.

But you know what,.. it hurts me more to have to do it, but my family is of utmost importance and I will protect that the best that I can.

So...avoid negatives...

Paris and The Secret

Hey, this is really interesting. I just watched my favorite entertainment channel about celebrities and such, and guess what?

Paris Hilton, who's sentenced to a short jail term period, has been preparing herself mentally for this period with 2 books, and one of them is "The Secret"! That's my favorite book!

I thinks she's gonna be okay, after all.

....more on this book soon.

$$$ in My Bank

My experience on the Law of Attraction has never been stronger than this incidence today. Its just another normal (great) day for me. However my thoughts seem to wonder to these particular 'friends', a couple, who, time and again dissapoint me with some attitude to an issue that we have between us.

Suddenly, in the morning, I just had this 'forgiving mood' for them, and I wish that whatever happen between us, I wish them all the best. That happened in my thoughts, not verbalized.

It wasn't too long in the afternoon when I received an sms from one of them, "Hi! I've banked in $xxx in your account today, sorry for the delay...".

I replied with a TQ! and a smiley.

I can't figure out whether it was my positive vibes that travel across to them, compelling them to pay some of their owings to me, or their positive intentions that made their way to me to be more forgiving towards them.

Whatever it is, my belief in The Law of Atrraction once more proved to be right...

Another Great Day..!

Today is another Great day for me. I have loads of things to be joyful about, even when I did not even go out the whole day.

I enjoyed a simple breakfast, a sandwich that is bit too spicy for my taste, and my normal white coffee, alone. Then I catched up with some business friends, updating my part time business,... which is also my part time income.

Noon, I was too full, still from breakfast, so I skipped lunch. But I smiled the whole afternoon talking to some new friends online. These are friends who have a few things in common. We make each other laugh.

4.00 pm. My children pesters me to bake a cake. A Pillsbury cake from the box. First time trying it out. Turn out to be a crispy brownie. Hard as a rock, but chewy and yummy. Haha..but my kids still enjoy it. I did, too.

Dinner, my other half is out on business appointment. My new maid cooked a not-so-perfect meal, but surprisingly my little daughter loved it. I kind of like it too.

It doesn't end there. My online friends are always there for me. Even as I wrote this, I am in-between this blog and my favorite web page.

Life is so blissful. You always have something to be grateful about...

Stay Positive, You!

Being in the real world is actually challenging. Ha ha... Maybe that is an understatement to some. To me, I take life as it is. I just want to be Happy. Even that, is sometimes challenging for me.

We are surrounded by people around us, some positively inclined, and some vice versa. Some is somewhat in the middle. In trying to be positive, so that I could attract good things to me, I do encounter with differences in opinion, judgements and stands. And when I do, it sometimes sway my positively inclined stand to different directions.

That's when I quickly check myself and say out my affirmations loudly in my mind and thoughts. I am Happy, Healthy and Wealthy! Great things coming to me. Sometimes I add, "Oh.. and gorgeous too." (Just to give more confidence..ha ha)

However low I feel at that point of time, just when I remember my affirmations, I do feel much better afterwards. Try it. It might help some of us....

Lesson about Life - Lunch with an old friend

I learned something very valuable yesterday while having lunch with a friend. Something I always knew about, and to an extent, something I try to practise in my day-to-day life. But yesterday I saw a true perspective on the concept of The Law of Attraction.

We attract who we are, what we believe in, what we seek in life. I am grateful to have a happy life, even though it "could be better"; lead a comfortable lifestyle, though not yet at the level I would love it to be. And so forth.... But I would say overall, I have a meaningful life, and very very grateful for it.

My beautiful friend, which I haven't met for quite some years until recently, on the other hand, is alone, sad, lonely and struggling to make ends meet. So I gathered that she's been divorced for four years, her children is away at college under her husband's custody.

What I noticed is that after years of us not having met each other, my friend is bitter about life. She can't seem to let go of her past, and very much living in self pity. Her conversation centered around things she wanted but couldn't have. "Her ex-husband never pampered her", "she can't find happiness", "she doesn't have anything at her age". She believed that she deserve a better life, but was deprived of it from circumstances. Yes, what she believe in, she gets it.

I have a mission for her. I will keep giving her encouragements, and make her believe that she can have what she wants, as long as she believes she CAN have it.

And I BELIEVE she CAN have it...

Great Minds Think Alike (Cont'd)

Great Minds Think of Everything...

That is why, this blog is about
Anything..
Everything..
That Great Minds ever think about.

Especially what you want to have in Life.!
What is your desire?
What is your passion?
What is your prized possession?
What are you grateful about?
Who are you thankful to?
What do you think about...?

This is the place to share
Enjoy...

P/s
Great minds are positive minds
Even in not so positive environment